When Your Kids Are At Their Worse, Show them God’s Grace

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It took me years to realize that most of us have an unbelievable talent at finding faults in others but are completely blind to our own transgressions.

Last week I saw this hypocrisy in full display as a certain person I know from the marketing world got on Twitter to decry unethical people fresh off her own ethical lapses the week before.  This is mild compared to the numerous people that we’re surrounded by and that for one crime or another really ought to be in jail or worse.

Even though this coming Easter Sunday is about God’s grace for an undeserving humanity, I believe most of us are so self-righteous (and I’m not talking “religious people” necessarily) that many of us never understand what Easter really is about.  In my experience I find that most of us believe that we’re basically good people and that if we live a generally better life than worse everything’s going to be “cool” with God.

I’m not going to preach but I believe that in my own human observation most of us need more forgiveness than we humanly are able to give each other.  That’s part of what grace is about and this is a thought that constantly consumes me in deterring my children from thinking like self-righteous people.

The best way I can model God’s grace in my life is by using my children’s worst moments to show them God’s grace.  Yes, you might call this another “PapiBlogger Parenting trick.”

What this means is that sometimes, randomly when my kids have been at their worst behavior, I’ll use those episodes to talk to them about what they did wrong.  In those instances I’ll tell my son Jonathan or my older daughter Elena, “you know, you guys really blew it.  Can you tell me what you did bad?”  In a whisper they will often say what they each did and then I’ll say to them, “You each deserve a very big punishment.”

Just as suddenly as the kids expect me to come down on them, I’ll use that moment to come back to them with grace.  “Well, today I’m not going to punish you.  I’m going to give you grace, complete forgiveness, because that’s what Papa Dios wants to teach you because He loves you.”  The result of giving somebody undeserved forgiveness is almost always quiet amazement.  Amazing grace.

I don’t know how my kids will remember my teachings of grace but I do believe that if they understand manage to understand their own imperfect ways at an early age and how God can help them overcome their self-righteousness they will be well grounded as human beings when they grow up.

What do you think about occasionally giving your kids complete forgiveness when they don’t deserve it?

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  • Maria Elena Garcia-Ruiz

    I agree with showing them Grace also on certain occassions…in order to teach by exampIe what God has done for us and how merciful,patient,loving,etc…He is with us. I have done it many times; However, they also need un ‘jalon de orejas’ and to be ‘grounded’ when necessary. Otherwise they will think they can get away with ‘anything’ in the future. In my opinion, it depends on the severity of their wrong behavior or wrong doing. Also,in many w For example, Jonathan’s strong-willed and stubborn character requires more correction and discipline. Whereas Elena’s well-natured and self-conscious personality requires less. A stern look and mild lecture might just be enough for her to correct the bad behavior. She often knows what she did wrong and will try hard to correct it right away. Overall, I believe there IS a time and place for everything: and,yes, sure, I agree that on Easter weekend, they DO need to be shown Mercy– not only for the sake of having peace at home, but also to teach them (and show them) how much God LOVES US-and them,of course-,and model our gratitude for what He did on the Cross for us: His Ultimate Gift of unimaginable Mercy, eternal Forgiveness and undeserving Love…for All of Us…=)

  • Maria Elena Garcia-Ruiz

    OOoops,sorry, there’s a typing error…the part which says”Also, in many ways…the computer ommited: “Also, in many ways, their personality and character come into play.For example….” ;)

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