(English) The Beat Your Bully Trick

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  • Melissa Sustaita

    Bullying is a huge issue in schools today. Indeed it is good advice to encourage your child to speak up for themselves – to the bully (without violence), to you (the parent/ guardian) and to school administration. Sometimes teachers do not know how best to handle bullying, so I do encourage students to inform a counselor, school social worker or administration on campus immediately. The most important thing: tell someone. Here’s a quick rundown of what you can tell your child to do in the event they experience bullying (or any form of harassment): STOP – Speak up, Tell someone you trust, Offer details and Protect yourself. If anyone is interested, I can explain each step further.

    Also, in comparing bullying behavior from 1980-1990s to present day – bullying is much more pervasive, and therefore, damaging. Cyberbullying is a form of bullying that did not exist when most parents were youth. Whereas children in those days may have had a bit of respite upon returning home from school – texting, social networking sites and YouTube allow no downtime for a bully’s target. Depending on the form of bullying, duration, and how safe/ supported a child feels, effects of bullying can range from lowered self-esteem, to academic decline, anxiety, depression and in the most tragic cases – suicide.

    Bullying, whenever reported by a child should be taken seriously. Document all incidents as bullying generally progresses, and report as soon as the behavior is more offensive/ physical (Example: name calling to destroying student’s property or threats of violence). If your child’s social life and/ or academic performance is being negatively impacted – bullying has gone too far. By law, schools are required to protect students from bullying and harassment, so be your child’s strongest advocate, and go above school administration if need be.

    Another pertinent topic: What to do if your child is a bully…

  • Alisa

    A topic all too familiar to me and my 13 year-old daughter, who has had the same bully since 2nd grade.

    They have their “on/off” years, but since 6th grade, this girl has been unrelentless. My daughter has an abundance of friends, and the boys consider her a good friend too, which makes her bully very jealous. The bullying not only is in the form of open embarrassment (“Hey, your shoes don’t match”), it is also shown between kids, in a sort of code, so that the teachers don’t see or take notice.

    My daughter could be selected to read a page from a book in class, and her bully will make gagging sounds or cough, disrupting the class but making the kids laugh at my daughters’ expense. It’s difficult to report this type of behavior because it’s seen as “in their head” and it becomes even more painful to endure. It’s as if no one believes her.

    It got to a point where this girl would tell others not to sit with my daughter or talk to her. My daughter is not the type to have any outbursts, and she really only wanted this girl to leave her alone. Instead of taking it back to her teachers, who were doing nothing about it anyway, I confronted the girl’s parents, who I considered to be good people. We sat the girls down and told them they didn’t have to be friends, but her unjustified attitude towards my daughter needed to stop. The girl admitted to treating her badly, though she could not explain why or how it all started.

    At the end of our talk, the girls even shook hands, agreeing to stay out of each other’s way for the rest of their 8th grade year. All has been peaceful since, and graduation is 2 days away. Thank God.

  • PapiBlogger

    I think you handled that admirably. Thanks for sharing!

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